#7 In a time of Blurry Vision

3 x Insights to help squeegie your perspective: 



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1. Being right is low on Character's list of priorities. Much more essential is the ability to ask questions that come from a genuine place of trying to understand the other blood and flesh human on the "other side." OhNoSheTwitnt pounced on a news pundit who only appears to ask the question––if you click above on this tweet, you'll hear she isn't really asking anything, but using what is actually an important question as a rhetorical prop for her predetermined stalwart position. What would happen, do you think, if she were to ask this question with curiosity and in earnest? What would the answer be? And how would she reply to that? That way, friends, lies conversation and the possibility of change. 

OhNoSheTwitnt has been called the funniest woman on twitter by people who know about these things. She has been a tornado of kick-ass advocacy for Women standing up to a bunch of chauvinist dicks. We also grew up next door to each other in Metuchen, New Jersey, obviously the birthplace of Character in the modern era. 


2. Three time NBA coach of the Year and Texan heartthrob, Coach Pop, said this earlier in the week:

“This man in the Oval Office is a soulless coward who thinks that he can only become large by belittling others. This has of course been a common practice of his, but to do it in this manner—and to lie about how previous presidents responded to the deaths of soldiers—is as low as it gets. We have a pathological liar in the White House, unfit intellectually, emotionally, and psychologically to hold this office, and the whole world knows it, especially those around him every day. The people who work with this president should be ashamed, because they know better than anyone just how unfit he is, and yet they choose to do nothing about it. This is their shame most of all.”

The part in bold is what's most upsetting to both Coach and to Character, and one has to assume that a coach with five championships knows something about Character, right? 

In this case, Pop is speaking up about speaking up. It's not enough to know things, but when you cultivate the virtue of tolerance, you also know when it's time to get off your ass and when to say something and do something. 

Texas has a lot of people who both love the Spurs and enjoy the bounty of Pop's no-bullshit coaching philosophy and who also support Donald Trump. If you're one of these folks, I'd love to hear from you and how you feel about Pop's candid assessment of our president. Does it matter at all that he served for five years in the US military, in terms of having earned the right to speak so candidly? 

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3. What does it mean to see? What does it mean to see Life as it Is? If you can't see clearly, you're going to mistake your view of the world for reality itself. And reality will whoop yo ass something fierce, boy! Faces, Places, is a beautiful new documentary film about a film director and photographer who drive around taking photos of people and animals, listening to their stories, and then blowing up their photos on a huge scale and pasting them for everyone to see. Sometimes we just need to slow the fuck down and learn that the most ordinary things in our lives are actually bigger than Life. Go see this film! 

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